Therapy for Relationship Anxiety & People-Pleasing
You crave connection but fear it, too.
If you find yourself constantly second-guessing your relationships, wondering if you said the wrong thing, or fearing that someone might leave you or be upset with you, you’re not alone.
I work with adults who feel insecure, anxious, and overwhelmed in their relationships. Whether it's with a partner, friend, family member, or colleague, you may find yourself putting others’ needs above your own, avoiding conflict at all costs, and working overtime to not be too much.
This kind of anxiety can be exhausting and isolating.
But it’s not who you are. It’s a pattern you learned, and patterns can be unlearned.
You might relate if you…
Worry about how others feel about you.
Feel a strong need for reassurance in your relationships.
Struggle to express your needs or set boundaries.
Feel “too sensitive” or “needy” and try to hide it.
Avoid conflict, even when something bothers you.
Lose your sense of self when you're close to someone.
These patterns often develop from early experiences where love and connection felt unpredictable or conditional. Therapy can help you understand the roots of these behaviors and start to build more secure, authentic relationships, starting with the one you have with yourself.
Session Fee: $150 for 50 minutes
“Emotions don’t cause trouble by themselves; they arise to help you deal with the trouble. Your emotions bring you the energy and information you need to address whatever is going on inside you or in your world.”
How can therapy help?
In our work together, we’ll gently explore your relationship patterns and where they come from. You’ll learn how to:
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Many people struggling with relationship anxiety or people-pleasing have learned to downplay or ignore their own needs in order to keep the peace. In therapy, we’ll help you reconnect with what you truly want and need in relationships and build the confidence to express those needs clearly and respectfully, without guilt or fear.
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t’s exhausting to be stuck in your head—analyzing every text, replaying conversations, or worrying about what someone might be thinking. Therapy can help you understand the roots of this anxiety and develop practical tools to calm your nervous system, trust your instincts, and respond rather than react.
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When your self-worth is tied to others’ approval, it can feel like your mood rises and falls with how people treat you. Through therapy, you’ll strengthen your internal foundation by learning to validate yourself, hold your own emotional ground, and feel more stable no matter what’s happening around you.
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If you're always the one managing others’ emotions, fixing problems, or trying to be “perfect,” it can keep your relationships from feeling truly mutual. Therapy gives you the space to explore these patterns and begin showing up in a way that’s more honest, balanced, and true to who you are.
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As you begin to feel safer within yourself, your relationships can start to feel safer, too. You’ll learn how to navigate closeness without losing yourself, set healthy boundaries, and connect with others in ways that feel more fulfilling, less fear-driven, and rooted in mutual respect.
This work is about more than relationships.
It’s about how you relate to yourself.
When we untangle anxiety, perfectionism, and people-pleasing at the root, you're free to show up more fully and confidently. Not just in relationships, but in every area of your life.
If you're ready to stop walking on eggshells and start feeling more secure, I’d love to support you.
Click the button below to schedule a free consultation or learn more about how we can work together.
