Therapy for Relationship Problems and Emotional Distress
You crave connection, but it’s stressful.
If you find yourself constantly second-guessing your relationships, wondering if you said the wrong thing, or fearing that someone might leave you or be upset with you, you’re not alone.
I work with adults of all ages who feel insecure, anxious, and overwhelmed in their relationships.
You might remember a time when things felt better, and you’re tired of feeling this way.
I’m here to help you find hope again. It doesn’t have to be this way for the rest of your life. Therapy can help you figure out what’s going on so you can start to turn things around and feel better.
You might relate if you…
Worry about how others feel about you.
Feel a strong need for reassurance in your relationships.
Struggle to express your needs or set boundaries.
Feel “too sensitive” or “needy” and try to hide it.
Avoid conflict, even when something bothers you.
Fear losing control of your emotions if you try to tell someone how you really feel..
These patterns often develop from early experiences where love and connection felt unpredictable or conditional. Therapy can help you understand the roots of these behaviors and allow you to start to build more secure, authentic relationships, starting with the one you have with yourself.
My Approach
Your progress in therapy starts with having a therapist who understands you. My first session with every client begins with me hearing your story. If I am to help you, it’s important that I get to know you and your world. Your perspective matters to me, and I want to support you within the context of your own life. I’m very good at seeing the underlying processes within you as an individual and helping you recognize deeper patterns in your relationships. I can draw out the needs and fears that keep you stuck in the same cycles, and I bring a lot of empathy and non-judgment to the conversation. As someone who is also human, I truly understand your frustrations and longings. My clients feel safe with me.
I practice Emotionally Focused Therapy for Individuals (EFIT). Our work is emotional, but only at a pace that feels safe for you. Our work is experiential in that I will often guide you through encounters with imagined others or parts of yourself. Our work is rooted in attachment science as it focuses on your past and present experiences of attachment and how they influenced your view of self and the amount of safety you feel with others. I use this science-based approach to help you shift and improve the sense of security you feel in your relationships and in the world as an individual. You will ultimately feel more positively about yourself and gain a balanced view of yourself in relation to others. It has been an honor to witness this change in my clients, and you can experience it too.
“Emotions don’t cause trouble by themselves; they arise to help you deal with the trouble. Your emotions bring you the energy and information you need to address whatever is going on inside you or in your world.”
How can therapy help?
In our work together, we’ll gently explore your relationship patterns and where they come from. You’ll learn how to:
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Many people struggling with relationship anxiety have learned to diminish or ignore their own needs in order to keep the peace. In therapy, you’ll reconnect with what you truly need in relationships and build the confidence to express those needs clearly and respectfully, without guilt or fear.
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It’s exhausting to be stuck in your head, analyzing every conversation or worrying about what someone might be thinking. Therapy can help you understand the roots of this anxiety and learn to calm your nervous system so you can react in a way that feels better.
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When your self-worth is tied to the approval of others, it can feel like your mood is attached to how other people feel about you. Through therapy, you’ll strengthen your sense of self by learning to validate yourself, hold your own emotional ground, and feel more stable no matter what’s happening around you.
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If you're always the one managing everyone’s emotions or fixing their problems, it can keep your relationships from feeling balanced. Therapy gives you the space to explore these patterns and begin showing up in a way that’s more authentic.
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As you begin to feel safer within yourself, your relationships can start to feel safer, too. You’ll learn how to navigate closeness without losing yourself. You’ll be able to keep healthy boundaries and connect with others in ways that feel more fulfilling and secure.
This work is about more than relationships.
It’s about how you relate to yourself.
When you understand your patterns and recognize the reasons why you feel insecure, you’ll see what needs to be healed. When you start to have your needs met, you can show up more fully and confidently. Not just in relationships, but in every area of your life. You’ll feel safer in the world.
If you're ready to stop the fear and to start feeling more secure, I’d love to support you.
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